I would have had a really tough time making it through this week without the help and support of so many of our friends. Without any family here in TX, we have had to rely so much on our friends and neighbors here for help. So many of our sweet friends have watched our kids, made us meals, and sent flowers. Today my friends @rebekahmaines & @mrshanks10 (Instagram) surprised me by bringing over an avocado tree for me! It really brightened my day! Rebekah remembered me talking about this avocado tree a few months ago and how much I wanted one and she and Alana picked it out and brought it over today. It is such a fun gift and it really made me feel special that she remembered that and they were thinking of me. Rebekah was also the one who watched my kids when I was transported by ambulance to the hospital on Tuesday. This has been a tough week, but it has made me so grateful for the wonderful friends we have made this past year since moving to Texas. I think planting and caring for this tree will be really healing. Plus, how cool will it be to have my very own avocado tree?!
I’ve jotted down a few things that have been really helpful for me and will most likely make a post here in the next few days of the top 10 things you can do to help someone who has gone through a miscarriage. Was there anything you did (like plant a tree or purchase a certain necklace or ring) to help with your healing process?
UPDATE:
If you are just stumbling across this post, I wrote quite a bit when I was going through the entire surgery and recovery process. Here are the posts I wrote in the order they were written starting from the day of my ectopic pregnancy surgery.
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I lost my beautiful daughter 16 years ago, while I was 7 months pregnant they say it was a fetal/maternal hemorrhage. They think she had a stroke in utero. Her name was Lilyanne. To this day I have no answers as to why I she died at birth. I had 2 healthy pregnancies prior to her??? I know one day I’ll be privy to that information and I guess that helps me.(sometimes) I know that it hurts now both physically and emotionally, believe me I know that pain. But time does heal the physical and softens the emotional. I mourn for my Lilygirl every year and think of the coulda, shoulda,woulda…but I have 3 handsome boys that I spoil and love with all my heart and they mourn with me too. Oh…after I lost Lily I did have another child, a wonderful boy, and he looks just like her! I always say he was my reward he is sweet and strong and even though he never met his sister has a strong attachment to her! Be strong my sister and know everything happens for a reason.. Love to you and yours. ❤️❤️
My husband and I lost our first baby after trying to get pregnant for five years. Ladies from our church prayed over me, and we were pregnant again that same week! They all went in together and gave us a basket of items to unwrap during that next pregnancy since I was so nervous and scared. It was a sweet gesture that with each present I opened (sometimes comfort gifts, baby items, socks, soup, etc.) I was reminded I was one week closer to meeting this sweet baby. May 8th (the week of Mother’s Day almost 7 years ago) is a day that will never be forgotten, but I’m thankful for the healing that has happened. I know how much you adore your family, and I will keep you all in my prayers as you make difficult and emotional decisions about future children. I believe in Heaven and believe that our babies are there now being loved on until we get that chance. Much love from Virginia!