I’m going to be real right now, I’m heavier now than I have been in the past. This has been pretty difficult for me being in the fitness space for so long, but this is real life. And in real life, things are not always balanced. In fact, I talk about life’s lack of balance a lot. This is one example of my life being in a place where not everything is perfect. I worried about how others would perceive me if I wasn’t in my most perfect body, but that’s not realistic for me. Perfection is also a myth. Though my body isn’t in the most perfect shape it’s ever been in, the other areas of my life are pretty amazing and I don’t want this one area to outshine all of the others.

Our Bodies are Different

Everyone is different in how their body looks and how they view their body. Honestly, when I was in the best shape ever, I was pretty unhappy. Getting to that place was hard on me. I was also going through my divorce, so my emotional well-being wasn’t stellar, either. While everyone else was looking at my body and thinking I had it all, I didn’t, and things were hard.

Fast forward to today. My body isn’t as toned, but the other areas of my life are great. I have things to work on (don’t we all), but I feel happy! My kids are amazing, my business is fulfilling, I’m working on my mental health, and I spend a lot of my days smiling. That’s pretty special.

While everyone else was looking at my body and thinking I had it all, I didn’t, and things were hard.

Loving Yourself   

Loving yourself is a lot easier said than done, but your body doesn’t define your happiness or your worth. Honestly, it all starts with your mind. Making healthy choices with your diet and exercise are decisions that can help your body and your mind, but having some wine or skipping some workouts doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Finding what works for you is important, but that process should include being kind to yourself and giving yourself grace.

At the end of the day, happiness starts in your head, not in your hips — or your legs, or your butt, or your tummy. Your body doesn’t define your happiness. Sure, I want to get back on track a little better with my body, and I plan on doing that, but that doesn’t mean I’m unhappy. I want the people who follow me to know that I’m not a superhero, I’m just a normal person who has a body that fluctuates in weight just like everyone else’s. If yours does too, that’s just a part of life. If you don’t mind the extra weight, great! You are beautiful. If you want to get back to where you were, that’s great too! Now you have a goal. Love yourself through your process.

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You all know I love a good quote! This is one I keep on my Instagram highlights that says, “Problem areas of my body: 1. Brain, for assimilating the concept of “problem areas” and taking it seriously in any way when really it is a big pile of unadulterated bullshit.”

Your body doesn’t define your happiness, you do.