Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.” This is something that I wholeheartedly believe. He was a renowned businessman, but I think this quote is good to remember in all areas of life, not just professionally.
The five people I spend the most time with tends to fluctuate a bit between certain friends, team members, and my family. However, my kids probably take the cake on time spent, which is totally okay with me! This quote makes me grateful for the great people in my life, careful about the people I wouldn’t want to be like, and more accepting of those who push me to be better without putting me down. More than anything, it helps me to evaluate those who are closest to me.
My Two Biggest Contributors
Lincoln and Phoenix: my two biggest contributors in the five people I spend the most time with. I bet most moms (and parents in general) would say that they spend more time with their children than they do anyone else. This means that what I put into my kids is not only important for them and their development, but also for me and how they affect the people they are closest with. I’ve always taken a lot of pride in how I raise my kids, the lessons I want them to learn, and the values I’ve worked to instill in them. I’m so proud that they take up such a large portion of time in my life, and I’m convinced that they are only making me better.
This quote basically tells us to be careful and deliberate about the people we allow close to us. It’s a reminder to be aware of toxic behaviors and to be mindful of any troubling behavior you’re exhibiting as a result of being around a toxic person. Those toxic people can be a friend, a family member, or a significant other. We’ve all probably been a victim of a toxic person at one point in our lives, and it’s good practice to constantly be on the lookout for those people so that you’re not soaking in any of their negativity. I’ve definitely had toxic friends, family members, and significant others in my life, and it’s a battle I sometimes still have, but it’s something I’m always working on.
Some months I spend a lot of time with those who help me run my business, and other months I don’t spend any time with them. However, I’m always mindful about having people on my team who bring out the best in me. I want them to believe in my dream, and to be as committed in our business goals as I am, which is an important lesson I talk about in my Peak Business Academy. I am so thankful that the people I work with are a welcomed combination in the time I spend with them. They help me to feel inspired, they keep the cogs moving in my business, and help to change the lives of countless women. In terms of being a combination of the five people you spend the most time with professionally, I consider myself lucky to be similar to any one of them.
Take a look around you, are you happy to be a combination of the people in your life that you’re closest to? If you’re not, it might be time to rethink your tribe. Write down their names, and then write down their biggest traits next to their name. If you’re bothered by those traits, that might be a red flag.
If you look around and you feel blessed to be a combination of those who are closest to you, keep up the good work, and don’t be afraid to thank those people! They help to shape who we are. Not only that, but strive to be one of them. Recognizing our own toxic tendencies is all a part of the process.
Who are the top five people you spend the most time with?