The quote that says you’re a combination of your five closest friends, and I’m paraphrasing, but basically the point of the quote is trying to get across is that you surround yourself with people you want to be like.
So if you surround yourself with people who are achieving and setting goals, and doing really good things, there’s a really good chance that you’re going to be doing those kinds of things also.
The same is true if you surround yourself with people who are constantly negative, who aren’t trying to hit goals, who aren’t being super productive. There’s a good chance that you’ll probably end up like that as well.
So what I want to talk about for a second is being aware of the people that you follow on social media. I know this sounds strange, but sometimes you have unfollow people on social media in the same way that you would begin to follow on social media. So I want you to be aware of this, I know a lot of times as women especially, we tend to compare ourselves to others on social media, which one, is a slippery slope because I can tell you, I’ve seen it firsthand.
There’s so many different apps that people use to photoshop their photos. Even I know you can take the exact same picture in good lighting versus bad lighting, and somebody who’s a professional knows the difference between good and bad lighting, but we might be sitting at home in our bathroom thinking, “Why don’t I look good?” We don’t understand the different kinds of lighting. Those are just a few examples.
I noticed a while ago I was following people on social media who I thought were really big in the fitness industry, so I should follow them because I’m also in the fitness industry. What I realized is that I never felt good after reading their posts. They were people who I thought maybe had perfect bodies or perfect lives. It came across in a way that made me feel worse about myself, because I felt like I could never measure up to these different people.
So I started unfollowing people If their posts or their pictures didn’t make me feel good, didn’t make me feel encouraged or make me want to be a better person, then I just started unfollowing them. Actually it’s funny. I don’t really follow a lot of people in the fitness industry for that reason, but that’s one thing I want to challenge you guys to do today. Take a hard look at the people that you follow on social media. If they aren’t encouraging, and if they aren’t uplifting, and if they aren’t somebody who shares the same goals as you do, maybe consider unfollowing them for a while and seeing if that helps improve your attitude and if that helps your negative self-talk, and if that seems to just make you happier in general by not following certain people, and by following others.