The other day I posted on Facebook asking how everyone was planning on navigating this upcoming school year with their kiddos. I realize this is a hard topic for a lot of reasons. But whether or not to send my kids back to school has been something I’ve gone back and forth with for a ton of reasons. I realize I’m blessed that I even get to decide for myself what to do. Many moms don’t have a choice. But I braced for some unkind comments from people passionate about whatever decision they thought was best.

It never came…

The comment section was filled with discussion, how each location was handling this question, and how each mom was managing this question for themselves. They shared similar worries, concerns, and questions. Moms are awesome, and it was amazing seeing everyone supporting each other through this difficult time.

Decisions are Hard for All of Us

To go back to school or not is a hard decision. Many moms flat out can’t quit their job to stay with their kids, or can’t afford to have someone stay with them while they do online schooling. Some feel like they can’t homeschool them in a way that will leave them with a good education. Some feel like they can’t find a middle ground between protecting their kids’ physical health and their mental health. I’m worried about my kids’ health, their need for social interaction, the quality of their schooling, my struggles to teach them (common core math is NOT my friend! haha), and how I’ll be able to juggle my job with their distance learning…

It seems like there are no perfect options, just a matter of finding the least worst one at this point. But listen, each and every one of us wants to do the right thing. Not only is this decision hard for all of us, all of them are. Whether it’s screen time, what they eat, when they go to bed, what they do, and who they do it with, we are all trying to make the best decisions for our kids. And I think it’s helpful to remember that when we encounter a mom doing it differently.

We Are All Doing The Best We Can With What We Have

This school year will be hard whether you end up sending your kids to school, distance learning, or a hybrid of both. But it’s good to remember that we are all doing the best we can with what we have. Give yourself some grace, and give other parents some grace as well. None of us know everything about each other’s situation, so it’s best not to judge. One thing we do know, is that we are all doing our best with what we have and with what we know right now.

Again, this is a principle that applies to more than just this situation. Shame is a big thing in the mom community. But it was so refreshing to see all of the moms on my Facebook post sharing and discussing without shaming. We are all just doing the best we can, and it’s nice to see other moms understanding that sometimes there’s not a perfect solution.

If you commented on that post, THANK YOU! I love this community so much, and I was so pleased to have so many amazing parents sharing their plans for the upcoming school year. I know our situation isn’t ideal, but hopefully our community can help to support each other through these times.

Sending so much love to you and your family!

xo Natalie

P.S. I have other blog posts surrounding this topic including These Are Hard Times for Our Kids, and At-Home Social Distancing Activities and Resources!