There are so many layers to motherhood. I remember having my babies and treading through the new normal that motherhood created for me. My mind, body, heart, and soul were forever changed, and that wasn’t a smooth transition for me. I stumbled through postpartum life before regaining my footing, and then falling through the next stage of motherhood.
There are so many things I wish I knew when I was in that place. Hindsight is always 20/20, and I wish I could go back and talk myself through some of the feelings I was having. I would have told myself that I was enough. Though I can’t go back and tell myself that, I can tell other moms instead. Listen up, ladies — You are enough.
Bringing Us Back to the Table
I follow an Instagram account called Women In Real Life, (which is amazing btw) and I came across a post that struck me down in the core of my mom experience. It’s a photo of a mom with her baby. She’s far away from her family while they gather around a table celebrating a birthday. She’s entertaining her baby with a balloon while her family continues to celebrate. The post talks about this woman, and how this image portrays how isolating motherhood can feel. It talks about the unseen moments, and how we often feel unnoticed by our loved ones during this time.
I always want to remember this post so that I can be a helpful hand when I witness this happening. This post urged all of us to help bring new moms back to the table, and I think all of us can work together to do that for each other.
I shared this post, and got some raw responses from some of you who have felt what this mom was feeling. The same things that many other moms have felt. The same thing that I’ve felt. One of my followers said to me, “I’m crying for real. I’m right there, right now, and it’s real.” Postpartum life is such a hopeless feeling for some of us while we work to gain our footing. It’s nothing to feel ashamed of, though it can create even more feelings of guilt and resentment. Sometimes it’s helpful just to understand that everything you’re doing is enough.
You’re doing such an incredible job, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.
You are Enough, Right Now
I want all of the women reading this who may be feeling this way to know that you are amazing. You’re doing such an incredible job, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. You are enough, exactly how you are. Not five years from now, right now. In the midst of nursing frustrations, not feeling like you’re enough for your spouse, or wondering if your changing body is okay, you are enough. Through wondering what your purpose is, questioning what your expensive education served, or battling through sleep deprivation while the rest of the world carries on, you are enough. Even with a few extra pounds, even with cellulite, even with crazy emotional breakouts, even with a million other things, you are enough. Through the good, and the bad, right now, in this moment. You are enough.
In the future, let’s all work to bring each other back to the table. Let’s all work to let other moms know they are enough.