We all have flaws. I try to be very transparent with you all and share many of my own. My skin isn’t “flawless” without makeup, I’m not great at decorating, my skin on my stomach is stretched out after having two 10 lb. babies, and the list can go on. No matter how “perfect” someone else may appear, we all have things behind the scenes that are imperfect.
If we allow them, our imperfections can make us feel less than or not enough. If you are someone who struggles with this I have three suggestions for you.
- Keep your circle really small. If there is anyone in your life that makes you feel like you’re not enough or that your imperfections are a big deal, then kick them out of your circle. Keep a close, tight knit circle of people who are going to encourage and support you.
- Take a look at who you’re following on social media. If there is anyone who makes you feel inadequate by their posts you don’t need to follow them. You get to choose who you follow. Follow people who inspire you in a positive way, not people who make you feel like you’re not enough.
- Start to set really small micro-goals for yourself. Write down these goals somewhere you will see them every day. These should be small goals like drink enough water today, park at the back of the parking lot when you go places today, etc. What will happen is that you will prove to yourself that you can say you’re going to do something and then actually do it. This changes your self talk to believe that you can set out to do something and achieve it.
We are all imperfect. By changing your self talk you can begin to view your imperfections as part of what makes you perfectly imperfect, and that is beautiful.