I don’t know what’s harder, never setting a goal and trying to be better, or constantly setting goals and never following through with them. I’ve been in each situation many times, and both were a hit on my psyche, my self-worth, and my happiness. Once I started doing something about my inability to grow as a person, I began to understand why I fell into that cycle in the first place, and how to get myself out of it. I discovered that even just the act of following through with my goals helped to shift my mindset. It was never about whether or not I lost the weight, ran the marathon, or liked the dish I made. It was about doing what I said I’d do. It was about getting to the gym, running more often, and trying a new recipe. It was about the effort.
Once I realized that, my mindset began to shift.
I started feeling better about myself, I felt good about what I did each day, and I started to have trust in myself. Failure might happen, but just the effort feels good. Just following through showed that I cared. That realization meant all the difference for me.
It Builds Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is a tricky thing. It’s not just about what we look like, how much money we have, or what we do for a living, it’s how we feel about ourselves as people. Self-confidence starts in the mind, not with our body or our what’s in our pocket. The thing about follow-through is that with each thing you accomplish, the more confident you feel. Each time you do something you say you’re going to do, you’re building this belief in yourself that wasn’t there before. That’s why it’s so important to work towards growth. It’s okay to be human and put things off sometimes, or to ignore a task when something more pressing comes up on occasion, but other times it’s important to follow through. It builds self-worth, and you’ll begin to feel the shift.
It Makes You Feel Good About Yourself
It feels good to check things off a to-do list. You feel accomplished, proud, and like you have something to show for your day. All of us have to-do lists, even if they aren’t actually written anywhere or spoken to anyone. Maybe you need to go to work, go to the gym, pick up the kids, cook dinner, and read some of your book each day. Even if you don’t have those tasks written down, they are still things you have to do each day. If you don’t do one of them, you might feel a bit disappointed for not checking off everything that day. Again, that’s okay sometimes. We are all human! But if you’re constantly missing things on your list, it begins to feel bad. That’s why it’s important to follow through. It doesn’t matter if you did it perfectly, but just putting that check has the ability to make you feel good about yourself for completing it.
It Establishes Trust
Think about how you feel about people in your life who never do what they say they are going to do. You don’t trust them with certain projects or tasks or favors. You may not trust that person to plan your birthday, to pick up your kids from school, or to give you advice. Well, that’s the type of correlation we might make in our own brains about ourselves if we never follow through with our own promises we make to ourselves. Now, think about the people in your life who always do what they say they are going to do. You trust them, you allow yourself to rely on them, and you value their input. When you start to follow-through with things, you’ll begin to trust yourself more. Some of us are great at follow-through with others, but not to ourselves. We put ourselves on the back burner. However, that creates a distrust in ourselves that can be harmful for our self-worth. If you wouldn’t break a promise to someone else, don’t break it to yourself, either.
This used to be a big issue for me (and sometimes still is), but I’ve learned to take a hard look at how follow-through impacts my mindset. My roadblocks tend to be rooted in fear, which is something I’m always working on so that I can push past that and follow through with my goals and promises. However, the more effort you put in and the more you’re willing to follow through with your goals, the better you’ll feel about yourself. Just like me, your mindset will begin to shift, too!
If you’ve dealt with similar problems, what are your follow-through roadblocks?
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