Caroline Zwickson, M.A is a Certified Women’s Health & Life Coach and the creator of the Well Mama program.

She is a passionate mother who supports fellow moms in creating holistic and thriving health as they rediscover their identity as a woman and mother. Her focus is to help clients create optimal hormonal balance and discover true emotional well-being through functional nutrition, positive psychology, transformative life coaching tools, and lifestyle adjustments. With Caroline’s expertise and dedication, her clients discover what it truly means to flourish in motherhood and in life physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

As a women’s hormonal health & life coach for moms, mothers tell me on an everyday basis “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

 

Before I had children myself, friends who did have kids told me about this loss of self and I thought with all my determination (and pre-motherhood naiveté) “I won’t let that happen. Not me! I am not going to lose myself.”

And guess what, I did lose myself.

But, I also found myself again… or, to tell you the complete truth: I am finding myself again and again as time passes, my children grow and I progress in motherhood. It is a constant evolution and an on-going discovering of yourself. That is one of the challenges and beauties of motherhood.

Today, I want to give you 3 key aspects that I always come back to with myself and with my clients, when they feel lost in their bodies or their lives.

  • Take care of your hormonal health:Your hormones can work for you or they can work against you. And, trust me, you want them working FOR you.

    However, when stress hits –as it inevitably does in motherhood– and we either eat crappy food or forget to eat altogether, our hormones are taking a major hit. When our hormones aren’t balanced and supported, our physical health, our mental clarity and our emotional resilience will inevitably suffer as well.

    Hormonal imbalances are much more common than most people think. We blame the baby blues, the extra weight, the rampant stress, the busy husband for not feeling our hottest, and we decide to make some changes to see a therapist, to lose weight, to get a massage, and maybe even to have an honest talk with our partner. And while those are all great things to do for yourself, many women are never taught how to properly address a key cornerstone of their postpartum well-being: their hormonal health.

    The best and simplest way to start supporting your hormones is by paying attention to your bloodsugar and making sure it stays stable throughout the day.

    In order to keep your blood-sugar stable, there are a number of things you can do, but in a nutshell you want to eat within 30-60 minutes of waking up and then every 3-4 hours after that, make sure that every meal and snack consists of a protein, a fat and a fiber (vegetables are best), and  you want to avoid sugar, simple carbohydrates, and caffeine.

    I know this can seem daunting, but I also know that with Natalie’s tips and amazing recipes, you can totally do it!

 

  • Instead of grasping for who you once were, start to get to know who you are now.By grasping for who you once were, you are also grasping for the life you once led, and as painful as that may be at first, your “old” life is no longer here. Your new life, the one in which you are an amazing mother who has birthed incredible children, is your reality.

    As your life has shifted, so have you.

    Instead of trying to get back the women you once were, begin to be curious about who you are now. Get to know this new you. Show up for her. Honor her. Find out what brings her joy and what her needs are in order to feel whole and complete. I bet you will find that this woman is so much stronger, more beautiful and confident than any previous version of you ever was.

 

  • Focus on connection.

    As women, we thrive in community. This is true for the extroverted amongst us who feel their best and most energetic when they are surrounded by other people. But it is also true for introverts, who need companionship with fewer people that bring quieter connections.  

    Here is the thing about connection: when we are connected with others who can mirror ourselves back to us, validate our feelings and support us in letting go of our stressors and our worries, we inevitably feel more connected to ourselves again as well.

    The feeling of being disconnected from ourselves, in fact, occurs most easily when we get caught up with our own inner critic, who tells us that nothing is ever enough and that we need to prove ourselves over and over.

    Being kind to ourselves and regaining a loving connection with who we are becoming is much easier if we feel supported, loved and encouraged by people who we equally support, love and encourage.

Be patient with yourself, let go of your mom guilt and know–deeply– that you taking care of you, serves your whole family. Like I always say: When mama is well, everyone wins.